The New Joint Family System – Let us Welcome the Emerging Scenario

I was born and brought up in a joint family system of yesteryear. I can still recall the happy times I had with my cousin brothers and sisters and my aunt’s children. We lived in a big, old style, tiled house in Royapettah, Chennai. The house was having a big garden, where we maintained a cow and a Buffalo and grew all kinds of vegetables. When my father got transfer to a city in another state, my education was not disturbed, my uncle took care of me and my sister. I did not miss my parents and got the same care and affection from my uncle. That was how most of the people of my times enjoyed the joint family set up.

I am sure, you will not dispute me if I comment that our joint family system of yesterdays offered more learning opportunities, for the children to learn and get practical knowledge. It also taught them some of the best principles of life, such as, adjustment, working in a group, tolerance and above all patience to listen others. The children also became knowledgeable, about collective responsibility, flexibility, and had ownership on what they did.

Last Generation

The quality education received by the parents of last generation, enabled both the husband and wife to work and earn for the family. Though, such an earning offered them necessary financial cushion to run the family comfortably, they felt guilty of being away from the children. The grand parents lend their help in managing the children, though most often they got shunted between the other children of their own.

Formation of Nuclear Families

The two or single child norm adopted by the last generation parents had resulted in the formation more nuclear families. The financial and resource constraints, made it mandatory for both the parents to work and earn for the family and be away from the children. Most often the single child in a nuclear family missed the closeness and proximity of its parents. The parents in turn feeling guilty of their being away from the child or children often tried to over pamper them.

Present Generation

The current generation, most of them from the nuclear families, do not want to loose the independence they enjoyed after the marriage. The quality of education received by them and the present day employment opportunities available for them help them to earn handsomely than their parents. A good majority of the present day generation couple are employed and look forward to lead an independent life of their own. The nuclear family set up under which they were brought up did not benefit them to learn tolerance and joint living. Most of them look forward to live separately, do not feel guilty about it and even express it firmly.

Elder Generation Parents

The parents, who are not financially well off, suffer the ignominy of ill-treatment. Though unmindful of the sufferings they manage to get pleasure in the company of the grand children and lend a hand in the home management, still they become unwanted and ignored. Most of the senior citizens among them end-up in old-age homes.

Those who are financially well-to-do, though want to stay and live happily close to their own son, daughter and grand children, they do not want to get exploited by their own children. They express reservations about becoming honorable servants at their son or daughter homes, to manage the children and look after the chores at the house. They do not want such an arrangement to encroach their privacy and liberty to do things on their own.

Welcome Changes

The trend is currently changing. Even those who grew-up and lived in a nuclear family set up look forward to have the elders at home to take care of the family. Most of them give respect to their elders in managing the family affairs and the grand children without encroaching their day-to-day works, while the couple want to have the freedom of taking their personal decisions without intrusion. This set up also enables the seniors to l set their own preconditions, while enjoying the proximity to their grand son or daughter.

The Best Ever

However, what attracted me most is, a different kind of joint family set up that is emerging slowly. This setup, enables the parents of the married couple to live under a single roof. Both the in-laws with a commitment to continue and take the joint family benefits to the next generation, learn to live under a single roof. They learn to have little or no touchy points between them and even such unintended intrusions are ignored sportively. They develop undisputed faith between themselves and try to offer the best of love to the grand child/children and teaches them the good values of life.

Such an arrangement works very well in the events if both the couple are posted abroad or chose to live there. They can work with an assured mindset and without any guilt because their parents are safe at home under the care of the other.

Establishing such an arrangement is not very difficult. It only requires a positive thinking by both the parents. They must shed their personal ego, discuss and iron out the touchy points, develop faith and belief on the other, identify their common interest as welfare of their children, which intern will also benefit in their personal welfare during the twilight years.

I personally wish more such joint families should emerge in future.

Help More Elderly People to Participate in Your Family Marriages and Bless the Couple

Few weeks back, I attended the marriage of one of my close relatives daughter. Since the marriage was  held on a Sunday, I could spent more time at the wedding hall with all my relatives.

The parents of both the bride and groom were very close family friends. Both the fathers have joined the same government office together on the same day, continue to work there and live in the accommodation provided by the office, in the city. Similarly, both the mothers, though remain as house wives, also became very close due to the closeness of their husbands and due to their living in the same place. Fortunately for the parents, who were looking forward to take their friendship to the next level, the horoscope compatibility of the children, the working environment and their ready acceptance for the marriage, have all worked in their favor, to arrange the family marriage happily.

When I entered the marriage hall with my wife, I came across so many elderly people. There were over 200 of them occupying the front row chairs and watching the marriage from the vantage point. Most of them were in the age group of 65 to 75 and some of them were 80 years and above. Most of them came to attend the marriage with their spouse. I could meet some of my own old relatives, whom I have not seen for several years.

They were all engaged in an enlivened discussion among themselves. Some of them were wearing hearing aids, while, others were using their hands over their ears to grasp all the sound. I could see some of them with missing dentures; some with false dentures and for some, it was all missing. However, what I saw common in all of them was the happiness of meeting their own close relatives and friends after a long time. All of them appeared to have lost several years in their age and showed enthusiasm in meeting every one.

Inquisitive about the presence of so many elders at the marriage, I asked my relative, the girl’s father about it and his reply made me feel all the more happy. He said, ‘we want to take our friendship, closeness and now the becoming of relatives beyond to ourselves to all our relatives and friends. Especially, we were more concerned about the elderly ones and wanted every one of our aged relatives to attend the marriage. We took pain to collect the addresses, distributed the invitation in person and even arranged for monetary and physical support to some of our relatives, who really needed them to attend the marriage. Now, you can see all of them are here to bless the couple, getting to know each other and meeting their own close ones, whom they did not meet for years.

I was able to see more than what he has explained to me. First of all, the parents by arranging the marriage on a Sunday, have helped all the elderly relatives to attend the marriage with their son, daughter or some other close relative. Even those on medications for issues such as BP, Sugar and others were able to make it, because someone accompanied them to the marriage and to help them in taking the medicines regularly.

After the muhurtham, both the parents have requested all the elderly relatives to assemble in a single place and asked the bride and groom to seek their blessings. That was the finest hour for all of them. I could see every one of them close their eyes, pray to their own choice of god and blessed the couple from their heart.

For most of the elderly people, who were not finding a person of their age, to listen to their woes, joys and other gossips, the marriage provided a real occasion to find their peers and vent their mind. In the marriage, they were always able to find someone to listen to their pilgrimage tales or air plane travel and stay in a foreign country with their grand children.

They all could get time to know further about the newly weds in each other’s family, their grand children and more. They heartily blessed the younger ones that sought their blessings. The elderly women, were able to indulge in all gossips to know about the married and unmarried ones in the families, to find a suitable match for their grand son or daughter.

Lastly, I was happy to find that both the parents, having invited a number of elderly relatives, also have made the best of arrangements to make their stay comfortable. The arrangements include food arrangements at the ground floor, special sugarless sweets, easily digestible food varieties, emergency medicines and an on call doctor. It was a wonderful experience for me and a day to remember.

I am looking forward to attend more such marriages.

Let not Your Lost Love Linger in You ! Learn to Love the One You Marry!!

The couple Lakshmanan and Indira were known to me for several years. I have seen their only daughter Rajini,  growing up with all the charms bundled with intelligence. The couple, though highly placed in the society, have brought up Rajini as a lovable girl, without pampering her ego. After completing her MBA finance from a leading educational institution she joined the top level managerial position in a much respected MNC.

Her parents who always respected her thought process heartily accepted her decision to get married to a Bengali boy, but cautioned her against making any hasty progress. Though Rajini was very much in love with the boy, her parents cautioning words and her intelligence helped her to make her progress step by step. She avoided both secluded and public meetings with the boy. Her cautious step by step approach did not amuse the boy much or matched his boisterous advances. When Rajini conveyed him her parents consent and willingness to conduct the marriage with the blessings of his parents, he did not react to the idea positively. Instead, he wanted to continue the love for at least two years before taking a final decision on marriage. He added that the two-year period will allow them to understand each other and take an appropriate decision on the marriage.

Rajini did not like the idea of postponing the marriage for two years and was not convinced by his arguments. Rajini was in deep love with the boy and was certainly baffled about the suggestion. She became worried about continuing the love affair for two years and wait for the uncertain result. Her persuasions did not convince the boy and at one stage he stopped talking with her and even got a transfer to another city without her knowledge. The sudden developments sank the spirits of Rajini, made her feel depressed and reclusive even from her parents. 

But her intelligence and the support received from her parents helped her to shake off her past to live a full life. Unlike a  good number of men and women who silently suffer from the trauma of love failure and its impacts in their personal relationship within the family and the productivity at the work place, she was able to overcome her trauma by taking the following positive steps. 

Taking time for the healing process

Her supportive parents helped her and encouraged her decision to take long leave from the office to recover from the trauma. They allowed her to have total privacy to sort out the details all by herself. She was able to reconcile and understand that a single bad event in her life should not rob her whole life and keep her traumatized lifelong.

Do Self introspection

She underwent a kind of self introspection to understand her conduct and desires. She clearly understood that she can shake off her guilt only by self forgiving and she did just that. She did not deny the truth that she was the prime instrument for her sufferings and she and she alone should work to overcome it by self forgiving. Her strong mental attitude enabled her to defy the trauma and the act staying with constant fear. Her mind became clear and she was able to get over her guilty feeling.

Improve the interactions

Rajini did not take much time to shake off her mental self and become normal. Her increased interactions with the colleagues in the office and participation in the office work enabled her to gain the normalcy soon. Her mental grit enabled her to manage the probing looks in the office with ease and establish interactions.

Shun the past from dictating on the future

It is a fact that most of those who suffered a love failure will be haunted by the past. The weak mental attitude to shun the past and stopping its impact on the future is always a tough task to overcome. Rajini groomed herself mentally and developed an attitude to stay clear of her troubled past and never allowed it to loom over her bright future. Her approach and the advice she received from psychiatrists helped her to surmount the problem of her past eating over her future. 

Living again with a new love

Her mental grit to live and lead a normal live helped her to overcome her love failure. She did not allow the depression of love failure to get into her, thrive and grow into her. She was able to listen to her parents to get married and love the person she married.

Inclined to Get Married – Get Prepared for it First

For the old timers especially for those who were born in 40s and 50s the very word preparing for the marriage may look very odd. Most of them underwent arranged marriages and even those who married on love never were having such compulsions or fixations of today to prepare for the marriage. But, believe me, for todays living conditions you need to prepare for the marriage both mentally and financially. It applies to both the would be husband and wife.

Remember the marriage is not for the boys and girls. It is for the mentally grown up men and women. Because, it will have an impact on your home, family, living style, followed cultures and customs and your own living style, you must get ready to undergo such changes.. The changes you will normally undergo after your marriage requires you to develop a kind of flexibility in your mindset. You must learn to and geared up to have an outlook that will not rebel but remain ready to compromise. Such a preparation becomes easy for those who have faith in the institution of marriage and the happiness it extends.

Understand your personal nature

Marriage brings in a true kind of relationship and a foundation for your life. Under the conditions it is essential to have self introspection to understand your own personal traits. When you want to find a right person as your partner in your married life, it is essential to understand what type of person you are. Try to learn about your likings, your habits, your personal traits, your selfless attitude, your nature of communication and ability to share your ideas and others. Do a simple introspection to find whether your personal traits matches your expectations on your life partner. Such an exercise will help you to correct your lacunae if any before the marriage.

Essential Traits

The researchers have identified the personal traits such as flexibility, extroversion, assertiveness, self-esteem, love and commitment as essentials for any person who look forward to get married and enjoy a successful married life. Similarly if the couples possesses the traits such as conflict management, power sharing, unanimity in ideas, uninterrupted clear communication skills, intimacy and sharing the responsibilities, they will be able to lead a happy married life. If you are planning to get married prepare yourself to acquire the missing traits in you.

Get financial empowerment

Unlike yesteryears where men alone were considered as breadwinners of the family, the changing times and technological innovations now helps both men and women to stay employed and earn to support the family. It is logical for them to have enough financial cushion before getting married. Also, they must envisage a long-term financial planning for the smooth running of the family.

Position yourself to assume responsibilities

It is essential for both men and women to positively place themselves to assume responsibilities. Remember the proper sphere or the extent of your activities will extend further after the marriage. After the marriage you may also have to assume the responsibility of your partner’s family. Here the responsibility does not denote just monetary sharing it is also includes the quality time you can spend with them to assume such responsibilities.

Conclusion

All those mentioned above are essential traits that will allow you to get engaged to enter into wedlock.

More Youngsters Prefer Arranged Marriage in India

 

On the other day a Professor from Chennai, employed in a leading American University, came to Kalyanamalai office with his wife. After registering his daughters profile, he initiated a discussion about the relevancy of arranged marriages in the current context. He wanted to know about the trend in the wake the changing preferences of younger generation. This blog is the result of the lively discussion I had with the couple.

Though there is a perceived trend about the love marriages, arranged marriages continue to play a leading role in India. The growing number of matrimonial web sites and the ever growing number of marriage seekers registering in such web sites, is a clear proof to show, the younger generation continue to prefer arranged marriages.

Parents favor arranged marriages

It is a fact that parents play a crucial role in fixing the marriage of their son or daughter. They go beyond the good looks of a would be bride or groom and consider other relevant aspects such as education and family background in arranging the marriage. Also, a growing number of parents who underwent love marriage, crossing caste and religion barriers, prefer their son or daughter to undergo an arranged marriage. Most of them do not want their son or daughter to go through the initial struggles and rejection they experienced in establishing the family.

Time Paucity and Consciousness of self identity

Except a miniscule minority, most of the younger generation, especially those in urban background, suffer from lack of quality time, to consider a serious love relationship that can lead to marriage. Also, increasing number of break in love relationship within their own office and between their own colleagues confuses them on such relationships. A number of them feel insecure to enter into a love relationship that can lead to marriage.

It is a fact that well qualified and highly placed men are women consider love marriage with their own colleagues a hindrance. They fear the concern about their own self identity or ego will play a spoilsport in the smooth going of their married life.

Arranged Marriages are not a stigma

Matured younger generation is uneasy about superfluous dating that serves no purpose. They are aware of the changing face of arranged marriages in India. Parents are more careful and do not force their marriage whims on their daughter or son. While, they value the traditions, they don’t hesitate to go beyond it, to assist their son or daughter to have to private face-to-face meeting with the would be life partner, before finalizing the marriage. Such an arrangement, while allowing their son or daughter to have a better understanding about their life partner, also provides the parents a sense of belonging in the marriage arrangements.

Conclusion

There is a change in the view of parents and they prefer to listen to their son or daughter before fixing the marriage. Such an understanding enables a son or daughter to discuss their would be partner preferences without inhibition before accepting the marriage proposal. The changed outlook presents a healthy sign in the acceptance of arranged marriages.

 

 

Never Show Haste in Choosing Your Life Partner from the Matrimonial Web sites

MatrimonysiteDuring one of the KM Matrimony organized event we met a group of marriage aspirants who came to register for our services. The educated group sought our advices in maintaining the privacy of their profiles and using the website www.kmmatrimony.com for their life-partner search.

As a matrimonial portal KM Matrimony takes all the precautions to protect the privacy of the users by displaying only the contact name, and the city of living of its users. It also has installed adequate security features to monitor at any distrustful activity at the website and block such attempts. We advice the users to remain cautious and exercise precautions while interacting with the other profile seekers whom you do not know before. The advice is more applicable to users who want to take the first decision before involving their parent or guardian.

Initial stage

  • While we advice you to allow others to see your profile photo for increased visibility we request you to exercise more caution when you respond to such express interest messages.
  • Always take time to back check the profile of such requests and respond only when you are convinced and interested in his/her profile. If you are convinced about the profile and do not want to respond to further requests you may block the member.
  • Never share any of your personal information and other interests during the initial stage
  • Take care and do not give away your address details
  • Exercise caution in sharing your employment details and do not give away your financial details
  • Think twice and share your family details only if you are convinced
  • Always keep your parent/guardian posted of the developments and take their advice.

Meeting the prospective bride or groom in person

It has become a practice for marriage aspirants who are convinced about the initial stage to move to the next stage of meeting the prospective bride or groom in person without the presence of others. While you agree to such an arrangement please ensure the following.

  • Keep your parent/guardian informed about such meeting including the place and time of meeting and seek their guidance
  • If you are a bride it is always advisable for you to have the first meeting at your home
  • If you plan to meet outside your house always make sure to meet in a public place or a place that is not an isolated one
  • Keep your mobile phone in ready to use condition to manage any exigencies
  • Do not hesitate to leave the place if you find anything fishy

Blocking and Reporting the abusers

  • You can block any user whom you do not find comfortable to interact with
  • Never encourage profile seekers who ask donations
  • Always listen to your gut feelings to identify the fraudsters and to discourage their moves

Finally do not hesitate to report any such unwanted incidents and details of such suspicious profiles to KM Matrimony to block such profiles and initiate legal action.

Kalyanamalai USA Tour – A Brief Intro

USA

The Kalyanamalai SUN TV program is regularly viewed by the Tamil Diaspora living all over the world. The program has helped thousands of alliance seekers to get married and settle in their life happily. Though the Kalyanamalai SUN TV shooting program (Varan Arimugam and Pattimandram) was earlier conducted in countries such as Singapore, Malaysia and the UAE, for the first time it was arranged in six cities in the USA.

When Kalyanamalai conveyed the idea to organize its Kalyanamalai SUN TV shooting programs in the USA, a number of Tamil Sangams/Associations spontaneously expressed their willingness to organize the program. In order to reach out the maximum number of Tamil population living in the USA, the places such as New York, Connecticut, New Jersey, San José, Dallas and Houston were selected as venues. The America Tamil Sangam, Connecticut Tamil Sangam, New Jersey Tamil Sangam, Kalalaya California & Bharati Tamil Sangam, Metroplex Tamil Sangam and Sri Govindan Somaskanthan represented the respective places to organize the program.

Two specialist pattimandram teams, one led by Saloman Pappiah, with Pattimandram Raja and Bharathi Bhaskar and another led by Bakkiyaraj with Pandiyarajan and Sumathi were chosen to thrill the USA audience. Local talents from the respective places were identified, trained and encouraged to participate as other speakers in the program. It is worthwhile to mention here that a number of present day pattimandram speakers were identified by Kalyanamalai, given training and continuously encouraged to excel.

The participating Tamil associations and sangams in various states, had arranged the halls at strategic locations to conduct the program and took responsibility to arrange the other essentials to organize the shooting. Regular promotional mails were sent to other associations in the USA about the program to encourage more participation of bride or groom seekers in the Varan Arimugam program of Kalyanamalai Mohan.

All the Kalyanamalai members residing at the USA were reached and explained about the benefit of participating in the alliance introduction program. The parents of such alliance seekers living in India were contacted and appraised of the advantages to encourage the participation of their son or daughter in the program. Such information promotion activities enabled more number of alliance seekers in the USA to take part in the Varan Arimugam program.

For the members, who have shown interest to take part, call letters were issued in advance to enable easy participation from the places of their interest. For assistance Kalyanamalai members were encouraged to give their phone number. The Kalyanamalai staff posted at the specially arranged call center in Chennai called back such members to clarify doubts and to provide details.

The Kalyanamalai team, led by Thiru Kalyanamalai Mohan and Thirumathi Meera Nagarajan, commenced its first leg of the tour with an arranged Matrimonial Meet at Washington DC on 13th October. On the east coast of the USA the program was arranged at New York on 18th October, Connecticut on 19th October and New Jersey on 20th October. The team continued its west coast tour with programs arranged at San Jose, California on 25th October, Dallas, Texas on 26th October and concluded its tour with the program at Houston, Texas on 27th October.

Kalyanamalai extends its whole-hearted thanks to Tamil Sangams and Associations in New York, Connecticut, New Jersey, San Jose, Dallas and Houston and other parts of the USA for making this trip a success. We look forward to have the pleasant experience of serving the Tamil diaspora living in various parts of the USA again.

Go Beyond the Good Looks & Horoscope Matching of Your Would be Life Partner

So, you are ready to get married. Remember, you are deciding on your life-long commitment that will determine the rest of your life. Therefore take a few more steps to go beyond the good looks of your would be partner, horoscope match and the shared interests. Try to look for the following essential qualities in him/her. This will be universally applicable to every marriage aspirant other than those who are blind in love and cannot look beyond it.

Right Family Background

A marriage, more than bringing two individuals together, also creates a lifelong relationship between two families. For a long committed marriage, such relationship should be good enough to nurture and grow. In strengthening such a relationship tradition, culture, religion and life values play an important role. The other factors that also play a significant role include food habits, life style, religious beliefs and others. It is always advisable to choose your life partner with a typical background of yours.

Level of Maturity

Here we discuss the mental maturity of a person to shoulder and manage the family after the marriage. He/she should be mentally prepared and ready to right decisions when required. The level of intellectual maturity also need to be complimented by emotional and physical compatibility for the success of a marriage. Try to gauge the mental maturity of your would be partner before nodding your head for the marriage.

Sense of Humor

It is a proven fact that a person with a sense of humor survives the marriage life better than a person without it. A person with a sense of humor will know the art of motivating the partner in the days of crises. He/she can break-the-ice in any harder situation to keep the marriage intact. Above all the infectious sense of humor will keep the couple stay together even during problematic situations.

Financial Preparedness

Unlike the earlier days where the husband remained the sole breadwinner for the family, presently both the husband and the wife earn for the family. The rising prices, and the changing living conditions demands it. A steady income and adequate bank balance is needed to start the new family and to provide lean-back support in case one of the partner looses his/her job. When both the partners contribute to the family kitty, it becomes essential to know the spending habits of the would be partner. It is also wise to discuss on spending for the family, saving, and dealing with individual bank accounts.

Few Others

Personal hygiene, respect to others, mutual trust, comfortable communication are few more aspects that needs clarity.

Learn to be assertive in taking a decision about your future life partner because it is one decision that can make or mar your life ambitions.

 

Have Sense of Humor for a Healthy Marriage Life

MarriageA person with a good sense of humor will always be the most sought after person in a group and he/she can befriend anyone with ease. A recent survey indicates that most of those waiting for a marriage preferred an intelligent humorous partner to a beautiful partner. It is a proven fact that those who enjoy a sense of humor, will always have high tolerance levels and enjoy their life as it comes without stress. It is a bliss to have a life-partner blessed with a sense of humor.

Sense of humor increases intimacy

The reason quoted by most of the current day couples who seek divorce is dull and draggy relationship with their partner. In other words they lead a marriage life that is devoid of any fun. On the contrary,a person with a sense of humor will tolerate unfavorable conditions better than a normal person and use his/her sense of humor to defuse the situation and bring normalcy with the partner. His/her infectious sense of humor will always make them to stay closer to their life partner.

Breaks the harder situations

A marriage life without arguments and counter arguments is also not a healthy sign. Such a marriage will tend to stagnate at one stage making one partner as dominant and the other is dormant. But excess of argument also will lead to unpleasantness and brings a stalemate at one stage. A partner with a sense of humor can easily defuse the situation without allowing it simmer and surface again. They can break the ice and make any unpleasant moment livelier.

Keeps the marriage lively and young

It is a universally known fact that sense of humor blesses one with a healthy mind and body. A life partner with a sense of humor will always keep the other engaged with regular fun talk and keep them involved. Such a sense of humor normally keeps the couple together, increases the trust between them, helps them to run the life devoid of boredom and stress, thus keep them young mentally and physically.

 Motivates to move ahead in life

Couple with a sense of humor will never feel stressed and will be blessed with a free unclogged mind. The free mind enables them to indulge in self-motivation without stress and stay ahead in life.

It must be noted that sense of humor is an inborn quality and it can also be acquired with a sincere approach to life and practice. Sudden embracing of it and practicing it for the sake of situation will not bring the desired results.

Practice to stay humorous and stay happily in life.

 

Always Register your Marriage to Avoid Future Complications

RegistermarriageRecently Indian parliament has passed a bill to make registration of marriages mandatory for all the religions. The Registration of Births and Deaths Act, 1969, makes the registration compulsory under the same act. The amendment bill introduced in 2012 has made it compulsory to register all the marriages irrespective of caste and religion. It also has included all types of re-marriages within its purview. The law does not require the marriages registered under various state laws to get registered again.

Procedures in registering a marriage

Though various Indian states have implemented different registration rules, most of such rules are confined to the following three broad categories. 

Registration of Hindu Marriages

The act allows registration of marriages solemnized under Hindu religious customs as well as non-customary marriages. The act covers Hindu, Buddhist and Sikh religions. To get the marriage registered the groom and the bride should have completed 21 and 18 years respectively. The marriage can be registered in any of the registering office that is close to the bride’s residence, groom’s residence or the marriage hall or the temple, where the marriage actually took place. 

Along with the application for registration a) proof for the marriage (wedding invitation/temple marriage receipt/ or any other proof for completing the marriage) b) Residential proof for bride and groom (employee ID card/ration card/driving license/passport or visa) and c) age proof (birth certificate/school or college certificate or passport/visa) d) four passport size photo graph of bride and e) four passport size photograph of the groom need to be enclosed. After paying the required fee for registration the marriage is registered  after signed by two witnesses and the certificate is issued on the same day.

Registration of marriage under the state law

Under this act marriages solemnized under any of the personal law can be registered. While the proof of marriage, residential proof, age of marriage and the number of witnesses remains same as the Hindu Marriages, the marriage can be registered without fine up to 90 days and up to 150 days with fine and cannot be registered afterward.

Registration of Special Marriages

The special marriages are normally solemnized before the Registering officer. Only the groom and bride who have completed 21 and 18 years of age are allowed to get married under the act. Either the residence of the bride or groom should fall within the jurisdiction of the registering officer. The residential and age proof of the bride and groom are to be submitted to the officer along with the application to marry.

The marriage is registered only on completion of 30 days from the date of the application submitted by both the bride and the groom. Along with the age and residential proofs two passport photos of both the bride and the groom need to be provided. The names of the applicants will be displayed in the registrar office to receive objections if any in writing for the conducting of such marriage. The marriage is not performed in case of valid objections. If no objection is received the marriage is allowed to take place on the 31st day in front of the marriage registrar and signed by two witnesses. The marriage certificate is issued later on.

Marriage certificate

Since the marriage registration certificate is considered as a most valid document for a number of purposes care should be taken to register the name of the bride and groom correctly. It is advisable to have the same name and spelling as available in the passport in the marriage certificate to avoid any future complications in the issuance of long-term residential visa. The certificate becomes a very important legal document in unfortunate circumstances such as divorce or one of the couple predeceased the other. It is always advisable to apply and receive sufficient number of certificates for future use.

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